I gave Charles a 9 page letter saying how I wanted to move on in life without him as a partner. I outlined our differences in views and changes. I said that maybe he could date me at another time if he was to become free. He got really upset by the letter and said he has been so stupid. He has called me numerous times saying he wants to re think things and make changes to move out of his marriage. I am just giving him the space tomake his changes without me being the reason or the focus. Meanwhile, I am doing pretty good. Not crying as much but still a bit depressed. I have had some good friends help me with advice and support.